I’ve never made a post about this before and honestly, I’m pretty scared too, I don’t know why I feel anxious about It. But I’m determined to open up about parts of my life that feel almost impossible to talk about just to raise awareness.
I’m in a relationship with someone who isn’t “my colour.” Maybe I’m just naive, but I have never seen it as a problem. I was led to believe that It didn’t matter, just because our skin is different it doesn’t mean we should be penalised for it and I still stick by that.
Being in a relationship with my partner for three years has shown me things I’ve never seen before. I never imagined I’d walk the streets and enter a restaurant to be made to feel so uncomfortable. People stare, They make you feel like you’re doing something you shouldn’t be. People make comments and forget we’re human, words hurt and when they become so regular It can consume you so much that you feel like you don’t want to walk side by side with the person you love.
Why should anyone be made to feel like they don’t belong because their skin is a different colour? I always imagined the world to be kinder than that.
It’s awful to see what people go through because of people in society labelling one another. If it wasn’t for me being with my partner, I would never have seen what racism can do, I wouldn’t even think about it because I live in a world where my colour is socially acceptable, but when I’m paired with my partner who has more to him than just his colour, suddenly I’m in a world full of hatred.
It’s time to stop hiding the reality we live in. Day by day we hide the things that are deemed unacceptable in society. Suicide, Mental health, Abortion, Racism, money, bullying and so much more. We shouldn’t be ashamed of these things, and we sweep them under the rug in fear of being embarrassed or vulnerable because that’s how we’re made to feel. Topics such as racism are so relevant that the only way to overcome it is to speak up and fight back at it.
We shouldn’t be ashamed of who we are, I’ve lived a life where I’ve felt so pressured to hide who I am, I almost killed myself. Most subjects that are deemed unacceptable are the ones we should be talking about. No one’s perfect, we are all human, all have a story and should be comfortable with who we are.
I admit to letting society’s views on my relationship control how I feel and the things I want to do, I find that just entering a restaurant builds my anxiety up so much that I don’t want to be there. But I want to feel comfortable and be able to hold my partner’s hand without feeling like I’m out of place and so that’s what I’ll do and I won’t let It scare me anymore.
If you experience racism, like my partner. Just know there is nothing wrong with you, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL no matter what skin colour you have.
Once again please all stay safe.
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter. – Martin Luther King JR.